Twenty years ago, my eldest just started driving. While I was teaching her I asked her to speed up until both of us are nervous. I wasn't even sure how fast we were going! And then I asked her to slow down. She asked me why I asked her to do that, and I answered because I want her to know what it will do. I took the mystery out of that driving experience, which could get her into trouble. Since then Brooke has not gotten any speeding ticket.
This past week, one of the Mastermind members came to the group and told us his teenage daughter is having sex. It broke our hearts. Listen, I am not casting stones at anyone. Dads, I am talking to you! We can do preventive measures to avoid this. Moms, you're very important.
We used to go to the mountains once a year and I remove my dad hat off. I made it comfortable for them to to talk about anything. And yes, we talked about sex. I didn't make them feel it's taboo! I didn't tell them "Go talk to your Mom!"
I remember I talked to them one at a time. I told them, "no man on the planet is going to tell you the truth like I will about the topic of sex." So I told them what men are thinking, what they will say that are all lies. I gave them a book, Every Man's Battle because I want them to understand how a man thinks.
My point is, we have to open the conversation to talk to our kids. Men, never again should you tell them to talk to your wife about things that you can.
Keep in mind, you also need to be a good model.
God entrusted us our kids to teach them. Take time. Open up a dialogue.
An interesting statistics, the number one deterrent to avoid teenage sex is having dinner together as a family.
So, even if it's uncomfortable, we have to tell them the truth.