Twenty years ago, my eldest just started driving. While I was teaching her I asked her to speed up until both of us are nervous. I wasn't even sure how fast we were going! And then I asked her to slow down. She asked me why I asked her to do that, and I answered because I want her to know what it will do. I took the mystery out of that driving experience, which could get her into trouble. Since then Brooke has not gotten any speeding ticket.
This past week, one of the Mastermind members came to the group and told us his teenage daughter is having sex. It broke our hearts. Listen, I am not casting stones at anyone. Dads, I am talking to you! We can do preventive measures to avoid this. Moms, you're very important.
We used to go to the mountains once a year and I remove my dad hat off. I made it comfortable for them to to talk about anything. And yes, we talked about sex. I didn't make them feel it's taboo! I didn't tell them "Go talk to your Mom!"
I remember I talked to them one at a time. I told them, "no man on the planet is going to tell you the truth like I will about the topic of sex." So I told them what men are thinking, what they will say that are all lies. I gave them a book, Every Man's Battle because I want them to understand how a man thinks.
My point is, we have to open the conversation to talk to our kids. Men, never again should you tell them to talk to your wife about things that you can.
Keep in mind, you also need to be a good model.
God entrusted us our kids to teach them. Take time. Open up a dialogue.
An interesting statistics, the number one deterrent to avoid teenage sex is having dinner together as a family.
So, even if it's uncomfortable, we have to tell them the truth.
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10 Tips On How To Create A Great Partnership.
I have had about a dozen partnership over the years of me doing business. Don't let people stop your dreams when they tell you that partnerships don't work. That's not true! If they are carefully planned and structured. There has to be an operating agreement!
Here are some tips and things you need to consider so you can create a great partnership.
1. What is the business evaluation formula if we decide to sell? Deposit/length of time/interest rate/etc ( This should be a price that dissuades the partner to sell, not rewards him)
2. What if one partner develops a competing product? Does this negate the partnership? I suggest a length of time for a no non compete.
Who owns the product and platform if you dissolve? What happens if one partner dies?
3. Do I have first right of refusal if the other partner wants out? Will the same evaluation formula be used? Historically, you are penalized when leaving prematurely. This always encourages the partnership to remain in place. It keeps each partner from plotting an early exit. Keeps everyone honest.
4. If a cash influx is needed from the partners are you agreeing to bring your % equal to your ownership %? How much time is allotted for your contribution? What is the plan if the partner says I don’t have or do not want to contribute additional capital?
5. How will the profits/proceeds be distributed? This is a big concern. I suggest a % be distributed and a % be reinvested back into the business. Don’t establish a dollar amount, it always changes as the business grows.
6. When will profits be distributed? Monthly/Quarterly/Annually?
Your needs will always be different. A formula for distribution of profits needs to be in place regardless of your needs. Never distribute based on needs of the partner, this will cause hardship and confusion. Distribute on a schedule.
7. What is the job role/responsibilities, of each partner? Write them out.
8. What is the process if the partner falls on hard times and wants to sell? Non elected, forced ( Bankruptcy, divorce, health, etc..) Formula for evaluation/terms/first right?
9. Is there a dispute clause if you reach an impasse? Or, majority owner holds the red button? This could be a phased approach. 1. Owners decide 2. Trusted advisors decide ( predetermined) 3. Arbitration
Where will the partnership be incorporated?
10. There should be a vision/mission/core values.
You cover these big topics and your future life will be much better, I promise.
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I heard the saying years ago that small minds talk about people and great minds talk about ideas. It is very true! We need to stop talking negative and talk about people. Quit blowing our own whistle, boasting or bragging. We need to start talking about ideas, talking about sharing and helping. A mindset of something like, "How can I help you? What can I do to take you to the next level? What can I do to introduce you to the right person?". Be a part of the solution not part of the problem.
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I want to tell you something. I hear guys every single day because I coach, talk about the things that they do for six weeks or 90 days and it's not working and they abandoned. I met an an old lady the other day in the YMCA. As I observe her, she kept going back and forth. I don't know how old she was and I waited until she got finished and then I went up to her and I said, "Man! You are so inspirational to me and I want to talk to you for a minute?" She said, "I can't hear you that well speak up." So started speaking up to her and she was just a sweetest old lady I've ever seen in my life and I said, "How long have you been exercising?" She said, "I exercise six days a week." I said, "Man, that is amazing you've been doing that very long as she says every day for 17 years. It was so inspirational to me since she said that and I said, Man, I hope when I'm your age I'm able to do the same thing!" She said, "You don't want to know how old I am." I said, "Would you tell me", and she said, "I'm 87". This lady does her exercise every single day except Sunday. I thought, that's discipline! Where are we missing it in regards to our business career not implementing some strategies like the senior adult lady does at 87 years old. Six days a week she goes to the YMCA and works out! I'll tell you looking at her I think she's a better shape than I am and the reason is because she's disciplined! We can't let things get in the way. We can't let obstacles get in the way. I want to encourage you guys to be disciplined. If it's important, you'll do it!