Leadership is a topic that is usually discussed in a business or work context, but today I want to talk to you about leadership within the family. Let me share my thoughts with you on how you can be a ‘Servant Leader’ in your family. The word ‘Servant Leadership’ makes some of us uncomfortable because it sounds like we are being asked to act as a doormat for other people or as if we are being asked to play the role of ‘the nice guy’, who is weak and taken advantage of by everyone.
But that is far from the truth. Servant leadership is about being a real man. It is one of the most powerful forms of leadership where you serve your family with unconditional love, going the last mile for your wife, exercising authority with compassion, putting your family’s needs ahead of yours, taking leadership decisions without thinking about your own agenda, doing the right things that need to be done and leading your family to a good place.
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Motivation,
Accountability,
Coaching,
Character,
Marriage,
Family,
Balance,
Relationships,
Success,
Priorities,
Tips,
Parenting,
Commitment,
Preparation,
Discipline,
Clarity,
Development,
Self Development,
Decisions,
Crossroads,
Encourage,
Encouragement,
Father,
Father Figure,
Influence,
Legacy
Leadership is a topic that is usually discussed in a business or work context, but today I want to talk to you about leadership within the family. Let me share my thoughts with you on how you can be a ‘Servant Leader’ in your family.
The word ‘Servant Leadership’ makes some of us uncomfortable because it sounds like we are being asked to act as a doormat for other people or as if we are being asked to play the role of ‘the nice guy’, who is weak and taken advantage of by everyone.
But that is far from the truth. Servant leadership is about being a real man. It is one of the most powerful forms of leadership where you serve your family with unconditional love, going the last mile for your wife, exercising authority with compassion, putting your family’s needs ahead of yours, taking leadership decisions without thinking about your own agenda, doing the right things that need to be done and leading your family to a good place.
More on this at http://www.viewfromthetop.com/blog/how-to-be-a-servant-leader-in-your-family
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Lift Someone Up,
Be An Encouragement,
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Servant
The priority should be family first before business. Do not focus and chase money but ending up alone. It would be sad to come home with a pocket full of money to a house full of strangers.
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Accountability,
Character,
Family,
Balance,
Relationships,
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Significance,
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Parenting,
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Move Forward,
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Wife,
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Wisdom,
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Happy,
Leadership,
Father,
Father Figure,
Influence
Twenty years ago, my eldest just started driving. While I was teaching her I asked her to speed up until both of us are nervous. I wasn't even sure how fast we were going! And then I asked her to slow down. She asked me why I asked her to do that, and I answered because I want her to know what it will do. I took the mystery out of that driving experience, which could get her into trouble. Since then Brooke has not gotten any speeding ticket.
This past week, one of the Mastermind members came to the group and told us his teenage daughter is having sex. It broke our hearts. Listen, I am not casting stones at anyone. Dads, I am talking to you! We can do preventive measures to avoid this. Moms, you're very important.
We used to go to the mountains once a year and I remove my dad hat off. I made it comfortable for them to to talk about anything. And yes, we talked about sex. I didn't make them feel it's taboo! I didn't tell them "Go talk to your Mom!"
I remember I talked to them one at a time. I told them, "no man on the planet is going to tell you the truth like I will about the topic of sex." So I told them what men are thinking, what they will say that are all lies. I gave them a book, Every Man's Battle because I want them to understand how a man thinks.
My point is, we have to open the conversation to talk to our kids. Men, never again should you tell them to talk to your wife about things that you can.
Keep in mind, you also need to be a good model.
God entrusted us our kids to teach them. Take time. Open up a dialogue.
An interesting statistics, the number one deterrent to avoid teenage sex is having dinner together as a family.
So, even if it's uncomfortable, we have to tell them the truth.
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Some of you guys, my heart goes out for you today because you're dealing with children that you have a broken relationship with. You don't have any ties, any connections.
Here's what I want you to do today. Reach out to those kids today with maybe a word of encouragement, maybe a hug on them, love on them. Tell them that you love them. I am not saying condone what they've done. We have a lot of kids out there that are knuckleheads that have done the wrong thing. They've made bad decisions. But let me remind you of something. You made some bad decisions yourself as a child, as a teenager, as a young adult.
Don't hold them to a standard that you're not willing to adhere to yourself when you were a younger kid. Let's show some grace. Be the bigger person. What I am saying is there is nothing that they would do that would separate my love and willingness to go out and pursue them. Maybe you need to say "Hey I don't agree with what you're doing but I want you to know that I will spend my last quarter helping you if you're willing to change." Don't love your passbook more than you do your kid. You got to love them back to you not beat them into submission.
Topics:
Motivation,
Accountability,
Character,
Family,
Relationships,
Success,
Significance,
Priorities,
Tips,
Parenting,
Commitment,
Move Forward,
Discipline,
Clarity,
Development,
Decisions,
Crossroads,
Wisdom,
Be The Light,
Encourage,
Encouragement,
Lift Someone Up,
Be An Encouragement,
Be Happy,
Leadership,
Father,
Father Figure,
Guide,
Communication,
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Authenticity,
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