How are you as a father? How do you interact with your kids? Are you verbally abusive? How do you instill discipline in your home? I want you to really think through the way you discipline your kids. The environment that you're creating at home, like are they excited when you get home? Are they like looking forward to it or they like run and jump up in your arms or they like run into the room and hiding or they're coward and down and they don't want anything to do with you because dad's in a bad mood?
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I want to talk to you about how to keep the main thing the main thing. And I am talking about our relationship with our spouse, our marriage. The number one thing that we've done in our marriage to keep it successful is keeping Christ at the center. Our relentless pursuit of Christ I think has helped us more than anything in our relationship.
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Some of you guys, my heart goes out for you today because you're dealing with children that you have a broken relationship with. You don't have any ties, any connections.
Here's what I want you to do today. Reach out to those kids today with maybe a word of encouragement, maybe a hug on them, love on them. Tell them that you love them.
I am not saying condone what they've done. We have a lot of kids out there that are knuckleheads that have done the wrong thing. They've made bad decisions. But let me remind you of something. You made some bad decisions yourself as a child, as a teenager, as a young adult. Don't hold them to a standard that you're not willing to adhere to yourself when you were a younger kid. Let's show some grace.
Be the bigger person. What I am saying is there is nothing that they would do that would separate my love and willingness to go out and pursue them. Maybe you need to say "Hey I don't agree with what you're doing but I want you to know that I will spend my last quarter helping you if you're willing to change."
Don't love your passbook more than you do your kid. You got to love them back to you not beat them into submission.
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Twenty years ago, my eldest just started driving. While I was teaching her I asked her to speed up until both of us are nervous. I wasn't even sure how fast we were going! And then I asked her to slow down. She asked me why I asked her to do that, and I answered because I want her to know what it will do. I took the mystery out of that driving experience, which could get her into trouble. Since then Brooke has not gotten any speeding ticket.
This past week, one of the Mastermind members came to the group and told us his teenage daughter is having sex. It broke our hearts. Listen, I am not casting stones at anyone. Dads, I am talking to you! We can do preventive measures to avoid this. Moms, you're very important.
We used to go to the mountains once a year and I remove my dad hat off. I made it comfortable for them to to talk about anything. And yes, we talked about sex. I didn't make them feel it's taboo! I didn't tell them "Go talk to your Mom!"
I remember I talked to them one at a time. I told them, "no man on the planet is going to tell you the truth like I will about the topic of sex." So I told them what men are thinking, what they will say that are all lies. I gave them a book, Every Man's Battle because I want them to understand how a man thinks.
My point is, we have to open the conversation to talk to our kids. Men, never again should you tell them to talk to your wife about things that you can.
Keep in mind, you also need to be a good model.
God entrusted us our kids to teach them. Take time. Open up a dialogue.
An interesting statistics, the number one deterrent to avoid teenage sex is having dinner together as a family.
So, even if it's uncomfortable, we have to tell them the truth.
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Great habits and good company have a way of turning times like this from tragedy to triumph.
While I was working on the new personal assessment that I'm putting together for our community. When I was reading through the family section, it kind of touched me, my own heart. I started thinking about my own family, and my daughters and my grandkids.
Guys, listen, I want you to lean in. Family is the most important dynamic of what we deal with each and everyday. I am all fired up about making money. I love to make money. I never want to take away from making more money today. Don't hear me wrong. I'm not saying making money's wrong. I want you to go make all the money that you can. Absolutely. What I don't want you to do is do it at the expense of your family.
And what's difficult for some of you guys to hear right now is you're young, you've got a lot of financial obligations and responsibilities ahead of you. I know you're torn. I get it man. Listen, believe me, for 40 years I've been getting that. I understand it. But some of you guys are doing this success thing at the expense of your children.
Anybody can be a father but it takes a real man to be a daddy. I want you to build those boundaries. And be careful. When you come home at night and your little Billy or Susie says, "Daddy can we play?" Man shut those electronics off and go out in the yard and play with those kids. They never ever will ask you "Hey Daddy, how much money did you make today?" They don't care. What they want is your time and listen. Spend the time with them. Don't cheat them out of the most important part of your day.
Don't come home exhausted. Man up and go out there an play with those kids. And I promise you the returns on that time invested will be invaluable.
Don't waste your whole life coming home one day with a pocketful of money to a house full of strangers.
When you get old like me, fat and bald headed, you can look back and not have regrets.
Again, make all the money you can but man when those kids come up to you and say "Daddy can we go out and play?" Just answer "Yes, I'm on my way!"
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